Girl! Are you aligning yourself with your oppressor!? The "pick me's" as we know them, they are known for aligning themselves alongside their oppressors. And why is that? Well, the only answer is the infamous pick me has internalized misogyny and in turn, allowed herself and her rights as a human to come second. Plenty of us at one point of our...

Ask Zanaé What's up girl? Long time no see! I have questions and want an outsiders opinion. The question is what exactly is talking and is there rules? Also I've been talking to someone and really like them and at times want more but after talking about that topic with them it seems that they don't. How do I know if I really do want more and...

Staying FOCUS in college! Any advice on staying focus in college? Hey! The biggest thing about college and staying motivated is constantly reminding yourself why exactly you are there! When I am feeling lazy I quickly remind myself of what I am here to do! Also, it helps to know that this is no longer a free education (in less you got it...

How do I know if I truly love who I am? Hey!  Look at yourself in the mirror are you happy with what is looking back at you? Go to eat dinner or lunch alone, do you feel secure in your own presence? The last time someone asked you for something you did not want to provide, did you say no? Can you with ease explain all that makes you whole? Someone...

How to deal with the constant urge to isolate yourself when you feel like you’re not in control of what’s happening in your life?  Hey! Let me be the first to say I am proud of your self-awareness and realization, not many people can address an issue that they may have and being able to do that shows you have lots of courage! Isolation...

Ask Zanaé: When is a good time to get back into a relationship? Hey! Every relationship is unique and some just do not deserve a second chance if you are looking to get back with someone. But if you are referring to when it is a good time for you to get into a new relationship I would say when you are ready. Ready in the sense that you know...

Is there really any power in forgiveness? Hey! Forgiveness as we know it is a pretty good thing but only when it is not forced. Forgiveness should come willing and if it does not what is the point of it? If you have forgiven someone just for the sake of it and still feel resentment against them you have wasted your time. The power of forgiveness...

How do you move on from losing someone you cared about? Relationships, friendships, family etc. Hey! The most important thing to do once you have lost someone you love whether that be by death or simple outgrowing you must allow yourself time to grief. Feel the pain it is absolutely normal and there should be no shame in doing so. Nowadays...

Ask Zanaé: HOMESICK in College!!! What’s the best way to deal with being homesick from college? Hey! Being homesick is very common among college students during their first few years at a school. Its a new environment it is not what you are used to but its okay because you will get used to it as time goes on. I have personally experienced...

How do you properly assess your weaknesses in order to become a person with better character?  Hey! I am loving the self-awareness! I am glad you are looking to work on your weaknesses and become a better person. This process can be quite difficult especially when forced so my biggest advice to you is do not force this process just take your...

Ask Zanaé: ." Hi, im working on myself and trying to be a better me. I’ve always had the constant tendency to over think and over analyze everything! so much so that this summer i almost went crazy, well i got really depressed. im still young and i realized it isnt healthy or smart to stress myself out so much so my new mindset is to be more...

The break up! We all been there and done that but for some reason they do not hurt any less than the last time. This one is for all my women out there that has just got their hearts crushed by the "guy of their dreams". In this post I will cover a eight step guide to getting over him and putting your happiness on top! Lets get right to, How to...

MORE MONEY! If you want to learn how to make college more affordable for you and your family. This post is surely for you! In this post I will cover 9 ways to get more money for college without having to apply for a loan and potentially breaking your bank, because Ain't no body got time for that!! Are you ready? Lets go! Here are nine ways...